Supporting Character.....

It is no secret that I love PostSecret.  I just wish I had known about them before they came to OSU a few years ago so that I could have heard Frank speak in person.  But anyway, I look forward to the new secrets being posted on Sunday each week.  This week this particular secret touched my heart......

I could relate to this person, but also felt sad for this person.  I can understand how this person feels in always feeling like you are supporting the person you are with at the moment......always trying to make them happy.  I do that in most of my close relationships too.  It is just who I am. I typically care much more about the person I am with and if they are feeling good, supported and cared for.  However, I am thankful that this does not lead me to rather do things alone.  I would rather be the "supporting character" any day....than spend my days alone without friends and/or family around me.  What a lonely life that would be.

But at the same time....if you are not taking care of yourself.....or if you don't have someone to support you then you can feel completely depleted (and then want to be alone). I have had many times in my life where me being the supporting one in the relationship can be too overwhelming.....it depletes me to where I have nothing more to give......to anyone.  I do not like these times.  Because not only is it hard on me emotionally, but I can't be that supporting and encouraging person I want to be in relationships.  That is hard.......  I find that it is very important to be self-aware and acknowledge when this "depleting" is happening.  You can't always stop it from happening....as I like to "give" in relationships......but at least be aware and find ways to replenish your emotional reserves.

I truly hope this person finds someone that can support him/her......or find a way to "support" people a little less. I know this can be hard, believe me I know from personal experience.  But we are constantly a work in progress, trying to learn from the past so that we can make ourselves better for the present and future.  And boy.....do I still have a lot to learn!!!  ;-)

Also, here is a link to PostSecret - http://www.postsecret.com/feeds/posts/default